When you are in an intimate, committed relationship, you give yourself to the other person and expect monogamy. You are spending your life with them and you shouldn’t have to worry about cheating. The whole idea of having a partner is to share everything with them and not have a need to find intimacy anywhere else.
Nobody deserves to be cheated on, ever. Unfortunately in this digital age, we have instant access to people and create online relationships fast. Social media apps let you quickly connect with others and online relationships are a thing. If you suspect that your partner is cheating online how can you tell? Is there are way to find out for sure if it’s going on?
Use these tips to find out if your partner is cheating online:
Your partner is always on his or her phone.
There are some warning signs if your partner is cheating on you. We live in an age of connectivity and everyone has a computer in the palm of their hand. You don’t even have to be looking at the screen because apps alert you when messages come in. It can be a 24/7 connection if you let it. That’s fine when you are alone but if you are with your partner, there should be no reason to be on the phone.
Watch what your partner does with their phone. Do they always have it in their hand? Every time it makes a chirp do they pick it up and read and write messages? This kind of behaviour shows that they are more interested in their online conversation than being with you.
Ask them what they are looking at and who they are talking to. If they give you a straight answer and it seems legit then you may have nothing to worry about. Ask them to put down the phone and be with you. If they avoid the conversation or don’t answer then they don’t want you to know what they are doing and who is on the other end of the message.
Your partner takes their phone everywhere with them.
Having your phone with you when you are out is normal. But if you are at home it should be safe to leave it on the coffee table while you go to the bathroom. If your partner takes their phone from room to room with them, even if they are just getting a drink in the kitchen, they don’t want you to see any alerts or messages. If there is nothing to hide, then why take it with you?
Your partner’s phone is always locked.
You shouldn’t have to lock your phone at home when you aren’t using it. It’s understandable out in public or at a social event but in your own place, why is it necessary? Phones usually are set up to auto-lock and it can be a hassle to change the settings, but most couples know each other’s password.
If your partner locks their phone and doesn’t share their password with you, they may be cheating. Ask to use their phone and see what they say. A faithful partner will happily pass it to you and let you use it for whatever you need. A cheater will say no or get out of it somehow. They don’t want you snooping around their social media apps or catch an intimate conversation with another person.
Now, how do we find out for sure if they are cheating? The best way is to contact an investigation service. The professional private investigator can catch a cheating spouse on your behalf, collecting proof of their activities online. Here are some ways to catch your cheating partner:
Check your partner’s email messages.
While this is not the most popular method of online communication, it is a good place to start. Some social media apps update to your email. This is a way to see who they may be interacting with. If you notice any emails from people you don’t know you can search those names on social media. Then, you may be able to make the connection to your partner through their friends list.
Monitor your partner’s online activities.
If they are cheating, they will probably be having several conversations a day with their lover. It could be audio or video too. Do they take calls when you are around or do they go to another room behind closed doors? Do they answer or send it to message when you are there? If their communications are always private then you may have a cheater.
Unlock your partner’s phone.
If you find an opportunity to add your fingerprint to their phone when it is unlocked, do so. This will give you access when they have it locked in the future. While this seems like an invasion of privacy, you are only trying to find infidelity. Check for any dating apps as well as the usual suspects like Facebook, WhatsApp, Messenger and SnapChat. If they are cheating, you will find evidence somewhere.
Suspecting your partner is cheating can be painful but finding out is necessary. You can’t waste your life with a cheater so do what you can to find out. If you are wrong then you can be secure that you have a faithful partner, but if not, move on and find happiness with someone else.